I get ticked off whenever I hear skinny girls say that they have to lose weight because their boyfriends call them FAT! It makes me flip! Somehow it makes me wonder if these couples know what a nurturing relationship should be. We hear it over and over, love is not partial on physical looks. Don't get me wrong, I know how important attraction is in a relationship. It’s what starts the fire!
If your partner keeps telling you that you're not good enough for him unless you have a body like Gisele Bundchen, he's an asshole and you have to dump him! If he's that shallow, I’m sorry to prick your bubble sweetheart but he'll mess with your self-esteem as long as you're together. You’ll start believing that the only way to be accepted is to be physically perfect. Someday it's going to back fire and before you know it, you have no idea who you are anymore. You gained 10 pounds and your man keeps picking on you or suddenly he makes you feel that you are the most disgusting creature to walk on earth. You have an almost invisible love handle and he doesn't love you anymore? And you blame yourself for eating two slices of pecan pie on your mom's birthday party. You've got to be kidding me!
Your looks do not define who you are as in individual. While society put that shit in our heads, you don't have to follow the trend. Everything we see around us is perfect, we see people on magazine covers and they're perfect. Ever heard about Photoshop? You’re an idiot if you're not aware that those pictures were edited and retouched so they will look perfect. And what's sad is they are used to set the standards of how someone is supposed to look like.
A mature relationship is not about pleasing the other person. It's all about celebrating and embracing the other person for who they really are. If there's one thing that I learned when I met Chris is when you love a person, you love all of them. There's no such thing as partial love. Unless you can imagine cleaning up after someone’s shit or piss, you really can’t say that true love is what dominates your relationship.
Chris and I love each other to death. I don’t remember a single time that we called each other Fat, oh no not even overweight! Yup that’s how much we respect each other. We choose to see what’s behind good looks and talent. More than his blue eyes, his perfect nose and the cute dimple on his left cheek, I love his kind heart and the way he’s there for me all the time. I can’t think of a better relationship, really! We’re the happiest people in the planet. Cheers to all women who found real MEN! I know some are unhappy but I don’t give a f***! My time has come and you have to suck it up hahahahahaha! ‘Til next time y’all!